Also, my problems with both are the same: after looking for a while and not finding any I like, I decide I'm being too picky, so I lower my standards a bit. Then I see loads of places, and find one I like, but decide that if I can find one this good, I probably should be able to find one that's better. I put good ones on hold, while checking out new ones, and then when I come back I find the good ones have been taken by other people. I'm afraid that long-term, what I'm looking for may not actually exist in my price-range. The good ones never even come on the market; as soon as they're available, they're snapped up by friends-of-friends of the current occupant. The nicest-looking ones are often unfurnished/boring. The similarities are endless and, indeed, scary. It makes me think I shouldn't settle for a small room, in case it turns out to be a metaphor.
This is definitely a major problem. My only consolation will be that if I find a flat anytime soon, a boyfriend should follow pretty quickly.