Posts tagged “dating”
Spent an hour on NoMoreDates, a dating site for serious urban professionals. Their advanced matching algorithms searched their entire database and came up with zero matches. They're supposed to solve that problem, not confirm it. It's been that kind of week, and it's only Tuesday.
My advice to someone struggling to meet gay people: skip the clubs, which mostly attract shallow party types. Instead, meet lots of people you genuinely like through friends and random events, then find the gay ones among them. Though I've met my own boyfriends online, my single status suggests I should follow my own advice.
Been obsessed with OKCupid for days along with Mikey and Dan. Go check it out, it's great!
I took the OK Cupid personality test and got four possible results depending on how I answered ambiguous questions. Am I spontaneous or planned? Romantic or horny? I genuinely don't know, so I'm putting it to a vote. People who know me better get more say.
I'm debating whether casual sex is more "pointless" than traditional dating. Both approaches carry the same risk of wasted time and incompatibility. Good men are rare; running jokes with friends aren't. A one-night stand can become a relationship just as easily as coffee dates can go nowhere.
After four years alternating between sex-first and getting-to-know-you approaches, I'm still single with nothing lasting past three months. Neither method wins. Sexual and emotional compatibility both matter, and whichever way you narrow down candidates, you'll waste time on the incompatible ones.
Being called lovely by a lovely boy makes me feel like a swooning Georgian lady. Third date Friday. You can read his blog yourselves now, so I'll just say he's much sunnier in person than his online complaints might suggest.
Met someone. It went well. Really well. Check back in seven days.
Yesterday I was ready to write off love as a glorified mating instinct dressed in rationalizations. Then I saw Love Actually and got sappy. The perfect guy already happened to me and I blew it. So: love is bullshit, love is glorious, and I want it desperately anyway.
Joined Friendster and finally discovered MoveFlat.com for London flatshares. Loot has been useless lately because everyone migrated there. Still searching for both a flat and cute single gay men.
Finding a flatshare and finding a boyfriend are basically the same problem. I keep second-guessing myself, holding out for better options until the good ones disappear. The best ones never even make it to market. If I can solve one, maybe I can solve the other.
I may be in love.
